SOLVED!!!!
so I solved the problem (for me at least)...
I used the command... -malloc=tbbmalloc in startoptions since your last info.
something must have changed since one of the last updates... after replacing it with the new setting "-malloc=tbb4malloc_bi" in the launcher everything is fine again... :)
now my settings are...
-no Benchmark
-noLogs
-noPause
-enableHT
-malloc=tbb4malloc_bi