turns out it was just some driver fail had to uninstall and reinstall GeForce experince
I just disconnect from a server and went to do something for like 30-45 mins not sure and when I got back.
this has happened a few times sometimes after exiting single player but I have not been able to reproduce this.
I got the same kind of crash a few weeks ago without mods but I don't have crash report
just got a crash report from a crash with a modded game
(there is an old thread with the same crash but it was never fixed here is a link https://feedback.bistudio.com/T83850 (turns out this is a bit diffrent but same symtoms))